“You screen, I screen, We all screen …”

Parent: Got a minute?

Dr. B: Sure.

Parent: What are your thoughts on screen time for kids?

Dr. B: That’ll take more than a minute.

Parent: My kids spend too much time with their phones and iPads and laptops …

Dr. B: Yeah. I do too. How about you?

Parent: Well, that’s part of my worry. I see them doing something that I’m not sure I have total control over myself.

Dr. B: They can be very addicting.

Parent: Tell me about it. So, what do you recommend?

Dr. B: You ever eat at buffets?

Parent: Here we go again. Never a direct answer to my questions.

Dr. B: Trust me. Buffets will get us there.

Parent: Ok. Do you mean the fixed price buffets or the ala carte ones?

Dr. B: When you go to the a la carte buffet, what are the first items offered up for you to select?

Parent: Usually the deserts.

Dr. B: And at the fixed price buffets?

Parent: Probably lots of salad offerings.

Dr. B: Do you think you eat differently at these two different buffets?

Parent: You mean a different kind of too much?

Dr. B: Yeah.

Parent: I definitely reach for the desert when I start the line hungry and it’s right there to tempt me.

Dr. B: And at the fixed price buffet?

Parent: Well, sometimes my tray is full by the time I get to the deserts.

Dr. B: Filled with foods you’ll enjoy?

Parent: Absolutely.

Dr. B: So, electronics are kind of like cheesecake.

Parent: Hard to resist.

Dr. B: But you won’t miss it if you have other enjoyable foods?

Parent: Yeah. I enjoy carrots and dip but if it is sitting next to the cheesecake …

Dr. B: You’re going to choose the cheesecake … as would I.

Parent: So how do I limit the cheesecake? I mean electronics.

Dr. B: Well, how do you limit your cheesecake craving?

Parent: I tell myself that after twenty minutes, if I am still hungry, I can go back up and order the cheesecake.

Dr. B: Does that work?

Parent: Works better than putting it on my tray at the beginning.

Dr. B: One of the great costs of too much screen time is what got displaced. So, find a way to make sure your kids have access to …

Parent: Plenty of carrots and dip before breaking out the cheesecake?

Dr. B: Now who’s overdoing it with the metaphors?

Author: ahbtest

Dr. Beitel has decades of experience as a therapist, teacher and parent since earning his Ph.D. from the University of Illinois. As a member of the University of Illinois medical school faculty, Dr. Beitel supervises psychiatry residents in training. He is married to "the other Dr. Beitel", a family physician. He and Joyce have two grown children.

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