Why do we need to talk about it, again?

Parent A – You said my son might be so overwhelmed emotionally; he can’t think straight?

Dr. B – Yeah. Kids can be so flooded emotionally; they can’t reason or problem solve.

Parent A – So, then the first thing they need to learn is how to calm themselves.

Dr. B – That’s a good point. What do you do when you feel overwhelmed?

Parent A – Go hit golf balls. And write Yelp reviews.

Dr. B – When you can’t think straight?

Parent A – If I’m driving, I pull over. I take deep breaths. I try to meditate. I go for a run. I put a cold wash cloth over my eyes while I lie down. I listen to music.

Dr. B – So you have a bunch of strategies for calming yourself.

Parent A – I guess. Sometimes I just have to get away from the people or situation that’s making me angry.

Dr. B – So, you are often able to recognize what is wrong and what you need to escape or avoid?

Parent A – Yeah. But that’s not so easy when you are feeling depressed.

Dr. B – How do you handle those moods?

Parent A – I’ve gotten better at recognizing early warning signs. Then I can do something about it before it’s out of control.

Dr. B – Like what for instance?

Parent A – I know when I need to get out and be with others instead of being too much in my own head.

Dr. B – That’s an interesting insight.

Parent A – And I know when I’m being such a pain in the ass, I need to give the people around me a break from me.

Dr. B – Does you partner help you with that one?

Parent A – How did you guess?

Dr. B – Just lucky I guess.

Author: ahbtest

Dr. Beitel has decades of experience as a therapist, teacher and parent since earning his Ph.D. from the University of Illinois. As a member of the University of Illinois medical school faculty, Dr. Beitel supervises psychiatry residents in training. He is married to "the other Dr. Beitel", a family physician. He and Joyce have two grown children.

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