The Blame Game – VIII – blah, blah, blah

Dr. B – So, how did it go?

Parent – What?

Dr. B – The deep dive into math excuses.

Parent – Well, I did your ‘why, why, and why’ thing.

Dr. B – And?

Parent – Aren’t you going to complement me (for doing that)?

Dr. B – I thought it was your kid who was concerned about judgment and approval?

Parent – You have a nasty streak, you know that?

Dr. B – I’ve been told, but you are avoiding the story I asked you to tell.

Parent – Well, I was right. He wanted to avoid my disappointment.

Dr. B – And?

Parent – And, I gave him a hug and said all the right things, blah, blah, blah.

Dr. B – The old blah, blah, blah intervention?

Parent – Yeah, you know, “I’m here to help. Just ask. I struggled in school too …” You know, blah, blah, blah …

Dr. B – So, the two of you identified a significant set of emotions that were intolerable. You figured out the basis for those feelings. And you figured out how to handle those issues?

Parent – Yeah. That’s what blah, blah, blah meant.

Dr. B – Great. I’ll have to remember that psychological terminology.

Parent – Kind of useful shorthand, don’t you think?

Dr. B – Absolutely. The blah, blah, blah approach.

Parent – Don’t be sarcastic. I did what you recommended. I’m just not as articulate as you are.

Dr. B – What’s the verdict on the Evil Math Teacher?

Parent – Well, I asked about going for help, blah, blah, blah …

Dr. B – Ha.

Parent – And the teacher is not Ms. Congeniality.

Dr. B – And?

Parent – Don’t worry. We didn’t stop there.

Dr. B – Good.

Parent – I said, “I didn’t always like my teachers. And some of my teachers weren’t as helpful as others. But you have to find a way to learn the material despite what kind of teacher you have”.

Dr. B – Good.

Parent – Kind of like our relationship.

Dr. B – Ha. Touché.

Parent – I offered to help with math and I got him set up with Khanacademy.org online.

Dr. B – Cool. I really like Khan academy for math instruction.

Parent – You should spell that for your audience.

Dr. B – Don’t worry. It’s on the screen.

Parent – Am I on the screen? I didn’t dress up. 

Author: ahbtest

Dr. Beitel has decades of experience as a therapist, teacher and parent since earning his Ph.D. from the University of Illinois. As a member of the University of Illinois medical school faculty, Dr. Beitel supervises psychiatry residents in training. He is married to "the other Dr. Beitel", a family physician. He and Joyce have two grown children.

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