Random Acts Of Kindness

Parent: Isn’t it a little early for you to be up?

Child: Yeah. I’ve got an early morning project to do.

Parent: Oh. What’s that?

Child: Promise you won’t tell?

Parent: Depends on what it is.

Child: Roz and I are going to sneak over to Mr. Williams house, before he wakes up …

Parent: To do what?

Child: We’re going to shovel his walk, without telling him who did it.

Parent: Ha. Why?

Child: Well, he always yells at us when we cut across his yard on the way home from school.

Parent: And?

Child: Well, he probably thinks we’re some kind of delinquents.

Parent: He does?

Child: Well, I’m guessing he does, because he yells at us.

Parent: What kind of person do you think he is?

Child: Well, I used to think he must be mean, for yelling at us.

Parent: But?

Child: But, maybe it’s hard to keep grass growing under those trees and he just wants us to use the sidewalk.

Parent: You are trying to look at it from his perspective. That’s nice.  So; why the shoveling?

Child: Well. We thought; maybe he needs to have something nice happen to him for once. He seems kind of lonely.

Parent: Oh. That’s sweet. So, why are you going to do it in secret?

Child: That makes it more exciting.

Parent: And?

Child: And a little less scary.

Parent: Well, Good luck, secret agents.

Child: Thanks. Can Roz come over for cocoa after we are done?

Parent: Absolutely. I want to hear what happens. So where did this idea come from?

Child: We’ve been talking about relationships in school. How good feelings and bad feelings get started.

Parent: I like your teacher more everyday.

Author: ahbtest

Dr. Beitel has decades of experience as a therapist, teacher and parent since earning his Ph.D. from the University of Illinois. As a member of the University of Illinois medical school faculty, Dr. Beitel supervises psychiatry residents in training. He is married to "the other Dr. Beitel", a family physician. He and Joyce have two grown children.

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