Motivation for Reading

Parent: I like your Magic Formula, but I’m having trouble making it work.

Dr. B: What do you mean?

Parent: Well you know our household. Everyone enjoys reading and writing … except my son. I can’t get him motivated.

Dr. B: What have you figured out?

Parent: I don’t know. We’ve always read to him at bedtime. He can see how much the rest of us enjoy reading.

Dr. B: Does he enjoy bedtime stories?

Parent: Sure. 

Dr. B: Does he quietly listen or does he get involved?

Parent: What do you mean?

Dr. B: Well, if you deviated from the known story, what would he do?

Parent: He’d set me straight in a hurry.

Dr. B: Does he ask questions about what you are reading?

Parent: Huh?

Dr. B: Is he curious? Is he more than just a passive listener?

Parent: Oh, there is nothing passive about this kid. 

Dr. B: Do you ever tell him stories instead of reading?

Parent: Oh sure.

Dr. B: Does he get involved?

Parent: Yeah. Sometimes he takes over the story if he doesn’t like the direction I’m taking it.

Dr. B: That’s great. Does your son have any special interests? Something he can’t get enough of?

Parent: Well, it used to be “diggers” when he was younger.

Dr. B: Diggers?

Parent: Earthmovers. Then it was dinosaurs. Now it is space ships and airplanes. 

Dr. B: Cool.

Parent: And, every once in a while, he’ll involve earthmoving equipment and dinosaurs in outer space … aka, the sandbox. 

Dr. B: So your son already enjoys writing and editing.

Parent: Huh?

Dr. B: You told me he enjoys telling a story or changing its direction.

Parent: Well, yeah.

Dr. B: And he has interests that he is passionate about?

Parent: Yep.

Dr. B: Well, if you are unwilling to wait for him to discover the wonders of reading and the satisfaction of writing … then join him in his world and find ways that reading and writing fit with what he enjoys.

Parent: Such as?

Dr. B: Let’s say he makes up a story at bedtime. What if you guys recorded the story and transcribed it?

Parent: Ha. Then he could read something he wrote.  He can see that he ‘can’ write. 

Dr. B: You got it

Parent: I could ask him to tell me the story behind his sandbox construction.

Dr. B: Great idea. 

Parent: Sounds like judo meets rhetoric.

Dr. B: Yeah. You’re using the momentum of your child’s interests. 

Parent: To trick him into doing something (I want).

Dr. B: Well. If it’s just a (you want) instead of a (he wants), then he’ll let you know soon enough.

Parent: Any other ideas? 

Dr. B: You’ve got the basic formula.

Parent: The (I want) and (I can) one?

Dr. B: No, the one where you recognize your child’s interests and help him develop them.

Parent: Is this how Homer got his start?

Dr. B: Absolutely.

Author: ahbtest

Dr. Beitel has decades of experience as a therapist, teacher and parent since earning his Ph.D. from the University of Illinois. As a member of the University of Illinois medical school faculty, Dr. Beitel supervises psychiatry residents in training. He is married to "the other Dr. Beitel", a family physician. He and Joyce have two grown children.

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