“I Can’t Draw”

Parent: A Fixed Mindset assumes you are what you are. A Growth Mindset assumes you can change if you put in the effort?

Dr. B: That’s a pretty good summary. 

Parent: This Growth Mindset thing got me thinking.

Dr. B: Oh, oh. That’s never good.

Parent: This is supposed to be a serious site.

Dr. B: What have you been thinking?

Parent: Well, I always assumed I was no good at music or drawing or skiing or playing ping pong  or …

Dr. B: Wow! Too much thinking, I think. Slow down. Let’s take one at a time.

Parent: Ok. How about drawing?

Dr. B: What about it?

Parent: Well, I assume some people are just naturally gifted artistically, but most of us aren’t.

Dr. B: You aren’t born in one category or another: Can draw or can’t draw.

Parent: But my cousin can draw anything she’s seen, perfectly, from memory. 

Dr. B: Yep, she does sound gifted. And probably draws all the time.

Parent: Yep. 

Dr. B: But your question was, “Can you learn to draw?”

Parent: Not like her.

Dr. B: So what. Can you learn to draw better than you can now?

Parent: Sure. Probably, with enough instruction and practice. 

Dr. B: Do you believe that or are you just giving me the answer I want to hear?

Parent: Busted!

Dr. B: Actually, it’s true. Drawing is a skill. If you start with the basics, you can improve quite rapidly. 

Parent: Even at my age?

Dr. B: Yep. Even at your age, old man. 

Author: ahbtest

Dr. Beitel has decades of experience as a therapist, teacher and parent since earning his Ph.D. from the University of Illinois. As a member of the University of Illinois medical school faculty, Dr. Beitel supervises psychiatry residents in training. He is married to "the other Dr. Beitel", a family physician. He and Joyce have two grown children.

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