Growth Mindset: Do I Suck At Math?

Parent: So this Goldilocks Zone is what I needed all along in math class?

Dr. B: Yeah. You needed to be challenged with a new concept …

Parent: … but with help until I mastered it.

Dr. B: Exactly. We call that support, scaffolding.

Parent: What’s with you and the brick wall metaphors?

Dr. B: You prefer a baseball metaphor?

Parent: Seriously? Go on.

Dr. B: As you master the concept, you need less help.

Parent: Like not needing to hold my kid’s hand when we walk down the sidewalk?

Dr. B: Yeah.

Parent: So, new concept, new scaffold?

Dr. B: You got it. 

Parent: And I didn’t have the scaffold in math?

Dr. B: Well, if you weren’t working in the Zone -The Goldilocks Zone – you were set up to fail.

Parent: So, I’m not missing a math gene?

Dr. B: Nope.

Parent: So I don’t really suck at math?

Dr. B: Actually, you do. But you weren’t born that way.

Parent: You are not being very supportive.

Dr. B: Well, I’m trying to help fix your Mindset.

Parent: Something else I suck at?

Dr. B: To believe you are just naturally no good at math is to have a Fixed Mindset.

Parent: And?

Dr. B: And to believe you can learn math, if you work at it, is to have a Growth Mindset.

Parent: Now you’re saying I was lazy?

Dr. B: Jeez!

Parent: I’m just messing with you. I get it. If I’m getting enough help until I master something new and challenging, I’m working in the zone and using a Growth Mindset.

Dr. B: I think you’ve got it.

Parent: Then how come, no matter how hard you practiced, you could never learn to hit a curve ball?

Author: ahbtest

Dr. Beitel has decades of experience as a therapist, teacher and parent since earning his Ph.D. from the University of Illinois. As a member of the University of Illinois medical school faculty, Dr. Beitel supervises psychiatry residents in training. He is married to "the other Dr. Beitel", a family physician. He and Joyce have two grown children.

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